When your teen pushes you away
When you walk past their closed door...
When they roll their eyes...
or respond to your kindness with rudeness...
It hurts...
...you try to remind yourself it's normal teenage behaviour and not take it personally....
But there's a nagging in the back of your mind that wonders whether your teen's behaviour is normal?
Or a sign of a problem?
Deep down you're silently wishing you had a teen that hugs you, shares their day with you and doesn't need a fog horn calling to get them to the dinner table.
You hope they navigate the teen years with maturity, kindness and good grades, but you're wondering how to help them when they won't listen to you.
Every time you see the eye rolls, moodiness, refusal or closed doors, part of you is sad you don't have that close relationship with your teen you secretly wish for and worried because you want to help them and they won't listen.
I see you struggling with whether to accept the distance in your relationship with your teen or do something about it.
Don't ignore that feeling.
While all healthy relationships need to be able to balance space and closeness...
Constant distance, defiance, and rudeness are not "teen behaviour" that just needs to be accepted.
Nor are they behaviours to immediately punish.
These behaviours are your teen communicating something to you.
Not seeing this is one of the biggest blind spots for parents of teens that secretly sabotages the close connected relationship you want with your teen.
But it's not the only blind spot.
To help you identify your blind spots that might be effecting your closeness and connection with your teen I've put them together for you.
In this new guide I outline the Blindspots that Prevent Parents having a Close Relationship with their Teen.
I've seen these blindspots at play over and over in my work with parents and teens over the past 20 years.
There's psychological research about how each of these blind spots impact parent teen attachment and mental health...
And every psychologist or counsellor I have supervised deliberates about how to tell parents about these blind spots.
Research shows your relationship with your teen is not only a nice thing for you, but a vital ingredient in their resilience, relationships and mental health.
Click here to check your blind spots so you can begin to improve connection with your teen today.
